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Response to “Understanding and Excusing”
As much as I would love to see In Jin as wounded and a victim, (because I have no doubt that this would help me move on from the Unification Church) I cannot.
I cannot because she chose to take upon the responsibility of being a leader despite her broken life—a life which she chose.
She chose to have a long-term affair with Alistair Farrant, knowing that this could potentially tear apart his family. And it did.
She chose to start a new extramarital relationship with Ben Lorentzen during her ministry. And he was married at the time. (And it wasn’t his first time cheating on his now ex-wife.)
She also chose to not come forward with her ‘sin’, even after getting pregnant AND giving birth.
Why are we trying to empathize with this woman?
An excerpt from the new Ben Lorentzen interview
Why are so many members of the Unification Church angry about your family situation?
I think it is because they have completely misunderstood the message of the founder, and that is also why they do not experience any growth, they haven’t for years.
But that is not true for all members! This is truer for people in leadership positions who feel threatened by us turning their value system upside down. We feel however that a publicly silent, yet growing group is supportive of us, or at least very sympathetic. I feel confident that more and more people as the years go by, and as they get to know us, will be more and more supportive.
What is your opinion about the future of the Unification Church?
In its present form it will die out. I parted from this movement when I was about 25 and up until In Jin started Loving Life. With her ministry I felt that this was something that made sense to me. I parted with it because I saw a very militaristic system where you were made to obey your leader. We still see that at work, like in our own situation: because we are seen as “out of line” we were forced out of our jobs. We have people on close to a weekly basis calling us fallen, evil, satanic etc. With that small-minded attitude as part of their culture, who in their right mind would want to join something like that? I think over the next seven years we will see some dramatic changes. It will not be possible to continue like now. Let me add that I have met some of the biggest hearts in this movement, people who really want to make life better for others in accordance to Moon’s big “golden rule”: Live For The Sake of Others!
To read more: I know.. it isn’t okay. Just because it is a reality doesn’t mean it is God’s desire. I don’t think he wants this for people.
An interview with Ben Lorentzen by Yolanda Brener
New article out!
In Jin’s affairs, Sammy Pak’s identity and lawsuits against the Moons and Paks (as well as his own mother’s lawsuit), “Moon’s organization reportedly help[ing] finance a coup—orchestrated by right-wing paramilitaries, cocaine cartels, and fugitive Nazi war criminal Klaus Barbie”, Jin Sung (James) Park’s cocaine issues and business ties to the Biden family, and other juicy Moonie information we never thought we would see published.
Thank you, Mariah Blake & New Republic.
For the full article:
The Fall of the House of Moon - By Mariah Blake, The New Republic
HIGHLIGHT: They used to be right-wing darlings, champions of traditional values. And you wouldn’t wish what happened to them upon any family.
One Sunday morning in February 2010, Bob Exler, a fiftysomething engineer, arrived at the faded ranch house in northwest Houston where he regularly worshipped the Reverend Sun Myung Moon. Most people know Moon for his mass weddings and his ultra-conservative newspaper, The Washington Times. But Exler, who joined Moon’s Unification Church in 1972, had been inspired by Moon’s mission to rebuild the traditional family. As he told me, “I didn’t wanted to be part of this McDonald’s Drive-Thru society, where you go from one partner to another.”
For many years, the Sunday service had followed an unchanging routine. Exler and his wife, Susan—who were matched by Moon and married in a mass ceremony at Madison Square Garden—would join fellow disciples in pledging their loyalty to a portrait of Moon, or, as they called him, “True Father.” They would then sing hymns in Korean and English, and listen to sermons by a rotating cast of elders.
But on this particular Sunday, Exler and his fellow congregants arrived to find that the portrait of their leader, in his traditional Korean robe, had vanished. In its place was a wide-screen television with simulcast footage of the Reverend Moon’s 45-year-old daughter, In Jin, speaking from a podium at the Manhattan Center, the concert venue where “America’s Got Talent” was filmed. With her thick makeup and sculpted red hair, In Jin bore a striking resemblance to a game-show host. After welcoming the “one hundred six churches all across the country” that were tuning in, she pointed out the church’s new “Liberace piano,” a rhinestone-encrusted Baldwin grand. Her love of Liberace, she explained, dated back to a show she’d seen in Las Vegas as a child. “I must say that he was fabulous,” she recalled, in an affected British accent. “He used to fly through the air, hoisted on a cable. He wore glorious capes—some were rhinestone, some were velvet, and they had all different textures.” At first Exler was intrigued, but after months of watching In Jin’s broadcasts, which had replaced the church’s normal services, his fascination turned to dismay. “We just turned on the TV, sat there for ninety minutes, then everyone went home,” says Exler. “The sense of community was destroyed.”
In Jin had assumed control of the U.S. church at a precarious moment for Moon’s religious empire. Her father had come to the United States from Korea nearly 40 years earlier, aiming to “subjugate” America as the first phase in a plan to establish a new world order. Moon had gone on to amass extraordinary political influence, building a vast network of powerful right-wing organizations and forging alliances with every Republican presidential administration since Ronald Reagan’s. In 2004, he and his wife even staged an elaborate coronation ceremony in the Dirksen Senate Office Building, which at least a dozen lawmakers attended. Republican Roscoe Bartlett bowed down before the couple, and Democrat Danny Davis carried in one of two golden crowns that were placed on their heads. Moon then informed the audience that “kings and presidents” had declared him “humanity’s savior” and that Jesus, Buddha, Hitler, and Stalin had been “reborn as new persons” through his teachings.
Mariah Blake is a reporter for Mother Jones. Her work has also appeared in The Atlantic, The Nation, Foreign Policy, and Washington Monthly, among other publications.
Understanding and Excusing
Editor’s Note: This post was written by a former HWDYKYM writer and not every opinion expressed is shared by the current HWDYKYM editors.
When a friend of mine was describing the ways his distant Asian father’s passive aggressive behavior had been detrimental to his emotional development, he concluded that the ways his father acted was “understandable, but not excusable” because his father’s own upbringing.
That phrase stuck out to me: “Understandable, but not excusable.”
It has been years and it still often pops into my head, shedding light into situations and people I come across. This phrase has helped me see my parents’ conversion to Unificationism and their continual devotion in a new light, as I am pushed to consider how they were raised (the good, the bad, and the ugly), the idealistic and dissatisfied climate of their generation, the deceptive techniques that drew them into the Moonies, and a dozen other factors that make their faithfulness make some sense.
…But even though they were lucky enough to have been matched to a spouse they were able to love wholly, and though they had beautiful children, they still joined a cult, and they still remain members. They still revere and borderline worship people they know to be hypocrites and they still excuse obvious corruptions and they still allow themselves to be abused by a broken religious system.
So in many ways I get my parents, and I pity them, but their actions were still wrong and no excuse will make up for the weight of their actions.
Though this is hard to admit, I must say this phrase has popped into my head recently when reflecting on In Jin Moon’s ministry.
As somebody who opposed In Jin from the beginning of her pastoral/evangelistic-ministry, publicly making known her downfalls and hypocrisies have been beyond enjoyable for me. Early on the writers of HWDYKYM (including myself) found it a priority in making In Jin’s broken marriage public knowledge in the Unification Church. I still think this information needed to be disclosed to members, as well as the revelations on her personal life that later came to light, but is she as bad as we made her ought to be?
Maybe—I don’t know if I can give a clear answer to that. Truth is, I have met her twice and we really don’t know each other. But I think she was overly-demonized. Yes, she clearly violated the Principle, tore apart three families (including her own), and lived a lie, and but let’s be real: I could never imagine the pressure she lived under as the daughter of a man who claimed to be the Second Coming.
Often the offenses of the ‘True Children’ are excused because they lived in the spotlight with immense pressure, and that’s not what I am attempting to do, but imagine how much of a mind-f*ck it would be to see your father proclaim he is the messiah with confidence, while seeing the corrupt inner-workings of his organization and his clear lack of divinity up close? I am sure each child of Rev. Moon has had a wide range of beliefs regarding the calling and even authenticity of their father throughout their lives, and I could not imagine how confusing and painful discerning all that would be.
In Jin has recited the story of her matching over and over again to prove that she was able to withstand the challenge of marrying an unattractive ‘fish-eyed’ man because of her conviction in the ‘i-deal family’. The stern command of the messiah to marry this man would be hard to refuse, though, especially when you consider the inheritance being on the line. She must have felt trapped into this matching and disqualified from ever finding true love.
Being blocked from the opportunity of ever knowing an intimate bond formed in mutual love, as well as growing up with a distant father, and all the other confusing religious/spiritual baggage that must have interfered with In Jin’s development, her actions almost make too much sense.
Last year, when another, somehow ‘unique’, forgiveness ceremony was taking place, In Jin took part. She no longer found herself exempt from all the rituals and ceremonies the rest of the UC’s membership had to deal with, and she humbled herself and publicly attended this event. She was not on stage or at all publicly presented as an elite true child, but she took her holy wine shot alongside crying babies and long retired MFT captains. Though her public apology lacked remorse, this action speaks loudly. Perhaps this was simply an attempt to gain favor from the membership and ultimately her own mother, but I like to think this reveals her humanity and maybe even some sincerity. Obviously, her apology lacked remorse, but I would like to believe she has at least one sincere bone in her body.
What In Jin has done is in no way excusable, but she is no longer in power, relevant whatsoever, and I think it is just about time for all of us to move on, let her be, let go of our resentment, and let her have another chance at love and actually creating that ideal family she always bragged about.
Michael Balcomb statement on In-Jin Moon
October 29, 2013
Over the past few weeks, I have received a number of queries from members throughout the United States and from other nations around the world, including Korea, asking me whether the October 12th ceremony between In Jin Moon and Ben Lorentzen was recognized by the church as a “Blessing” in some official or formal way.
The simple answer to this question is “No.”
The ceremony was held privately, on private property. All who attended did so in a private capacity. No church resources were asked for, and none were given. Similarly, church endorsement was neither requested nor received. True Mother did not give her blessing or consent, and rather sought to dissuade the couple from going through with their plan.
We continue to pray for True Parents and all members of the True Family.
Family Federation for World Peace and Unification, USA
Sunshine is the best disinfectant
There is apparently controversy over the former Unification Church pastor, In Jin Moon, marrying her lover, the lounge lizard, with whom she had a child out of wedlock while serving as pastor, and while both were married to other people. They say sunshine is the best disinfectant. So here is the invite: